Mom Friends
Phew! This one is hard!
I consider myself to be a pretty open book and very inclusive when it comes to new people and making friendships. I acquired this trait moving around a lot as a child. I would pride myself on introducing myself and really trying to get to know other kids, often being the new kid myself.
But motherhood is an entirely different scenario.
Mother’s are pretentious.
Not always inviting.
Rarely willing to branch out.
I find, often, motherhood to be a bit isolating.
Despite staying busy with story time at the library or bookstore, play ground meet ups, gymnastics classes and play dates, meeting and forming friendships with other moms hasn’t proven super tricky. I certainly try, but often I’m not greeted with the same enthusiasm I once had as the new kid in school.
You can’t exactly start with, “...but do you vaccinate? Is your child a potential measles carrier?”
That’s off putting; now isn’t it?!
Truly, in a lot of ways motherhood is like a big old dose of high school- every parental decision you make is highly scrutinized, on both sides! There’s not a lot of winning, and individuality is often rejected. We all want the same things for our children; to be happy, healthy, friendly humans... and yet we even fall short when it comes to friendliness.
Today I was approached in the park by a familiar face, and was so relieved when the mother wanted to join our little play date. She charged in, sat down and just had all the warm fuzzies to share around. That old feeling from school returned when she asked for my number and within hours was inviting us to her home for play dates.
I could literally twirl.
I’ve made a mom friend.
It may sound silly, but I just cannot wait to foster this new friendship with the same elementary enthusiasm I once had as a kid. We are both new moms, just trying to keep from staying indoors all day. We want to get together and not just talk about the idea of it. I’m absolutely giddy, as this was my favorite part of the week!
I consider myself to be a pretty open book and very inclusive when it comes to new people and making friendships. I acquired this trait moving around a lot as a child. I would pride myself on introducing myself and really trying to get to know other kids, often being the new kid myself.
But motherhood is an entirely different scenario.
Mother’s are pretentious.
Not always inviting.
Rarely willing to branch out.
I find, often, motherhood to be a bit isolating.
Despite staying busy with story time at the library or bookstore, play ground meet ups, gymnastics classes and play dates, meeting and forming friendships with other moms hasn’t proven super tricky. I certainly try, but often I’m not greeted with the same enthusiasm I once had as the new kid in school.
You can’t exactly start with, “...but do you vaccinate? Is your child a potential measles carrier?”
That’s off putting; now isn’t it?!
Truly, in a lot of ways motherhood is like a big old dose of high school- every parental decision you make is highly scrutinized, on both sides! There’s not a lot of winning, and individuality is often rejected. We all want the same things for our children; to be happy, healthy, friendly humans... and yet we even fall short when it comes to friendliness.
Today I was approached in the park by a familiar face, and was so relieved when the mother wanted to join our little play date. She charged in, sat down and just had all the warm fuzzies to share around. That old feeling from school returned when she asked for my number and within hours was inviting us to her home for play dates.
I could literally twirl.
I’ve made a mom friend.
It may sound silly, but I just cannot wait to foster this new friendship with the same elementary enthusiasm I once had as a kid. We are both new moms, just trying to keep from staying indoors all day. We want to get together and not just talk about the idea of it. I’m absolutely giddy, as this was my favorite part of the week!
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